Friend A is going to a friend B's house. One has a cell phone the other does not. The one without the cellphone is neither distracted and often in reflection. The other on his phone is living a mental life isolated. The news has got to him, the world has got to them. The image of the world is upsetting, friend C posted something about friend A that got to Friend B quicker than friend A could arrive. Friend B had already spent a whole time going from topic to topic including a past event about friend A. Friend A arrives to friend B's house. Friend B say's wow man I had no clue that you were such a stud with the ladies. Friend A says that was a lifetime ago. "Yeah but man you have got to tell me, what makes you such a stud."
Friend A has moved on, time has passed by and numerous circumstances and events that had effects on the psyche and the learning with reflections of oneself. Friend B has neither reflected or changed, and now has changed their vision of their friend into conversing about an image that had nothing to do with now. That image has shifted the perception of friend B as something occupying a past event. Friend B thinks the past is the present. He will go shaping the rest of the day based on this past. Never spending a moment with his friend although they are both in a present moment. The Judge of this present was the past. The past is not now, some people do change.
Instances of moments in life is never a summation of what occurs as a whole. One may be upset one day and a person may see someone upset. The person who is a judge may make their whole summation about the person through that. So ask yourself, would you wan't your difficulties in life to be what shapes you in the eyes of others! Especially now that the phone is involved and a person can be affected so much faster.
Mr. Everything